Monday, December 12, 2016


Piggybacking on defining abuse, I think the bottom line is that abuse is a scapegoating situation. The blamer will then use passive-aggression and stonewalling to not look like an abuser. All scapegoating is abuse and all abuse is scapegoating.
Scapegoating today occurs through carefully cultivated echo chambers. Enmeshment-in families and cultural systems such as businesses and churches- is one way to employ the sharing of emails, texts, confidential information, and biased observations in order to carry out a scapegoating. It includes the manipulation of facts and denial of negative facts about the scapegoaters/abusers. It happened in this election and it happens in relationships with narcissists and it is always the set-up in an abusive situation. It is barbarianism 101 and my heart hurts that humanity has not evolved much past Cain and Abel and Roman gladiators. Must we always be hungry for blood?

Definition of scapegoat
1: a goat upon whose head are symbolically placed the sins of the people after which he is sent into the wilderness in the biblical ceremony for Yom Kippur
2 a : one that bears the blame for others
   b : one that is the object of irrational hostility
Scapegoat Theory:
"Weatherly (1961) got students frustrated and then asked them to write stories based on given pictures. Where the people in the pictures were given Jewish names, students with anti-Semitic tendencies wrote stories that included aggression towards the Jewish characters. "

The Psychology of Scapegoating:
"The creation of a villain necessarily implies that of a hero, even if both are purely fictional."

"The dehumanization of the scapegoat makes the scapegoating more potent and less guilt inducing, and may even lend it a sort of pre-ordained, cosmic inevitability.

The term ‘scapegoat’ has its origin in the Old Testament, more specifically, in Chapter 16 of the Book of Leviticus, according to which God instructed Moses and Aaron to sacrifice two goats every year. The first goat was to be killed and its blood sprinkled upon the Ark of the Covenant. The High Priest was then to lay his hands upon the head of the second goat and confess the sins of the people. Unlike the first goat, this lucky second goat was not to be killed, but to be released into the wilderness together with its burden of sin, which is why it came to be known as a, or the, scapegoat."

Stonewalling is used to demonstrate that someone is a scapegoat. It's a dehumanizing tactic.

Stonewalling consists of:
  1. Refusal to negotiate a conflict in good faith
  2. Refusal to discuss honestly one’s motivations
  3. Refusal to listen to another point of view with openness
  4. Refusal to compromise
  5. Refusal to collaborate
  6. Refusal to support the other person’s plans
  7. Refusal to accept influence
Passive-aggression is just insidious and mean-spirited, and comes about where it is illegal or just looks bad to overtly abuse. One can still mimic basic humanity while carrying out passive aggression. Much of women's rights and civil rights advancements have been undermined by passive aggressive use of the law and social structure-see the war on drugs.

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