So, inspired by the article, I have committed to the path of grief as a way to spirit. I'm sure if I tell people I am committed to Everyday Grieving, they will look at me like I'm delusional. Why would you WANT to grieve every day?
I will tell you why: healing. Denying my pain and feelings does not work any more. In a fabulous case of "what you resist, persists" grief comes marching in, no longer willing to be ignored, and the great thing is I can hold it now without the distress. As Terry Real says, "Depression freezes, but sadness flows and has an end." This I embrace as truth.
I am holding on to the belief that feeling these feelings and moving through them will grow me, open me, make me solidly compassionate. I hold losses of loves, losses of family, losses of dreams, deep disappointments,places where I am targeted and oppressed. I feel the pain of those who cannot connect or grieve. I feel the pain of what fellow human beings do to each other. I feel the pain of separation from lovers, family,or friends. I feel the weight of my own failures.
I am a maverick...alone, and this is how it must be. No one can do this for me.
Grief as a spiritual path...I'll let you know how it goes.